Insights Series on creating a safe space for moms in America with Myleik Teele
In our latest Insights Series, we got real with Myleik Teele, a multi-hyphenate career woman and mom of two about motherhood. As an entrepreneur, podcast host, and creator of the Myleik & Mommas community, Myleik has done incredible work creating a safe space for Black moms in America to connect. She’s letting us in on her biggest lessons, most valuable tips, and the resources she is offering for other moms out there looking to feel connected and supported in their community.
What is the most important thing motherhood has taught you?
The most incredible lesson I learned from motherhood is to consider the inner child of the person before me. Before becoming a parent, I didn't always think about what a person might have gone through during their childhood that shaped who they are today. As a result, I now have more empathy towards others. Although they may be adults, they are still someone's child who may not have had all their needs met or opportunities they needed to succeed in life.
"As a new mother, it can be challenging, lonely, and isolating. That's why being a part of a community of people who understand the parenting journey is essential for surviving parenthood."
Why do you think it’s so important to find a community? Especially for mothers.
Parenting is a job that does not require any prior experience or training. From the moment of conception, there is so much to learn about raising a child and ensuring their well-being throughout their lives. As a new mother, it can be challenging, lonely, and isolating. That's why being a part of a community of people who understand the parenting journey is essential for surviving parenthood.
What steps have you taken to create a safe place for Black moms in America to connect?
A few years back, I created an online community called "Myleik & Mommas," where I share my knowledge on things that were completely foreign to me and encourage others to do the same. I understand that if it was tough for me, it must be equally difficult for others. It is crucial for Black women to feel secure and supported, especially as mothers; therefore, I take extra care to ensure that we keep the criticism to a minimum and the support to a maximum. The primary value of our community is empathy. We aim not to make anyone feel inadequate or suggest that there is only one right way to parent. Instead, we strive to provide support, share our experiences, and come up with suggestions to give moms more options. We gather online, on Zoom, and in person, and our love for each other is always felt.
How do you feel most connected to your community?
Whether I find myself awake in the middle of the night with a toddler who refuses to sleep, ready to complain about whatever virus is circulating in daycare, or just finished dealing with an epic tantrum, there is always someone there to support me. The feeling of having that support is priceless. Although I created this community, I receive much more from it than I could ever give. There is a certain magic to motherhood; you can feel that magic in this community.
What is the number one tip you would have for a mother struggling with her identity after having children?
One important tip is a reminder that struggling with your identity after having a child is normal. The internet often portrays a different picture, with moms bouncing back to work and excelling in every aspect of their lives. However, it is perfectly normal if that's not your story. Having a child changes every aspect of our lives, including our relationships with partners, work, and friends. It's a significant loss of freedom, spontaneity, and sometimes even confidence. Join one or more mom communities catering to your needs. Being a part of a supportive community with people in similar situations can help us hold onto hope and remind us that things will eventually change for the better.
What's next?! What are your goals for continuing the incredible work you have been doing?
I am planning a special "Magical Meetup" event for mothers and "friends of moms" in Mexico. This celebration of motherhood is designed to help moms feeling overwhelmed by motherhood's daily demands to take a break, recharge their batteries, and connect with others who understand what they are going through. I hope that by attending this event, we can all return to our families with renewed motivation and purpose.
Myleik Teele is an entrepreneur, podcast host, community creator, and mom of two. Stay connected with Myleik through her Instagram handle @myleik.
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